b u r i e d - pep talk #2

I'm sorry, but I have to do what's best for me.

Love-based emotions like joy, understanding & peace are soul vibrations. Fear-based emotions like jealously, anger, guilt & resentment are egoic thought patterns.

Most of us unconsciously make decisions from a place of fear.

Making decisions from a place of love is rarely the easy route, because it entails speaking your truth. But how do you speak your truth, if you don’t know what you truly believe in?

If you’ve spent most of your life being influenced by your friends & family, and fulfilling their expectations, how do you know your beliefs are genuinely yours?

Your emotions are one of the most powerful indicators of your true feelings. Have you ever had that pit in the bottom of your stomach while you were getting ready to do something? It’s a very subtle feeling, which is why we usually block it out.

That subtle feeling of dread.

Have you ever said “I wish I could just stay home instead.”? Or had a feeling of “I wish I didn’t have to do this.”? Those are clear indications that your actions are not in alignment with your soul.

If you are unsure the decisions you are making are in alignment with your soul, ask yourself:

“In my absolute dream life, would I still be doing this?”

If your answer is:

No: this decision is not in alignment.

Yes: this decision is in alignment.

Yes, but I would change a few things: this decision is in alignment, but you can be asking more of your life.

(listen, I understand there are some things you cannot avoid doing)

But, you do have a lot more control over your life than you think.

Are you doing things parents or friends expect you to do?

Are you doing things the media claims will lead to your happiness & fulfillment?

Or are you doing things that make you feel strong, vibrant & alive?

Time is the most sacred thing you have.

What's the point of spending your time chasing the day & doing things you don’t genuinely want to be doing?

“I need to make money”

“I have ______ to pay for”

"I don't have a choice"

“that’s not how the world works”

It’s only that way because you’ve made it so. Your current reality is the product of all the decisions you've ever made.

Every decision has a consequence. Every decision matters.

If you’re not actively participating and choosing the path of love & truth, then you’ll end up getting washed up by your ego.

And let me be clear, this is something everyone deals with.

The only reason I’m writing this pep-talk is because I wrote it for myself.

Remember... you are a powerful creator.

You can dig yourself out of your depths. Capitalism makes you think you have to spend money on therapy, self-help books, dieting programs, medication, etc. in order to heal. Those things are helpful, but ultimately, that’s all they are: things.

Self-confidence, self-truth, self-expression and self-love are timeless.

They can be neither given to you, nor taken from you; for they are learned through self-exploration.

Don’t be afraid of looking deep within yourself; you’re not inherently bad. We’re afraid that if we look beyond the veil of our egos, we’ll find someone we’re afraid of.

Are you afraid of how powerful you are? Are you afraid of how beautiful and radiant you are? Are you afraid of your intellectual capacity? Are you afraid of fulfilling your destiny?

I was.

Dead terrified.

The only thing you’re going to uncover when you look beyond the veil of your ego, is truth.

And if you’ve been on the run from truth, then things may get uncomfortable. But that’s the sweet spot, where growth happens.

If you can walk that skinny edge between comfort and discomfort, you open yourself up to massive potential for growth & self-exploration.

The same soil that buries a seed, is the fuel the seed requires to root down & rise from the depths.

Your struggles are meant to fuel you

Have you ever been hurt? Treated unfairly? Abused? Missed out on something you cared about? Shamed? Lost someone you loved deeply?

Use that.

Don’t let that suffering go to waste.

Channel all the pain, anger, sadness, resentment, guilt (whatever emotions you're feeling) and use it as fuel to create a life you love.

A life you’re proud of.

Instead of worrying about what your friends and family think of you, ask yourself “What do I think of me?”

Instead of agreeing with others opinions, ask yourself “Do I actually believe in this? Do I actually know this to be true?"

Instead of saying yes to things that demand your time, ask yourself “Do I actually want to do this? Or am I just trying to fulfill people’s expectations?”

Your time is valuable, don’t let your ego convince you it’s selfish to do what’s best for you.

It’s not.

It’s one of the most empowering acts of self-love you can possibly do, and that’s something to be proud of.